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Between the holidays

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We were at our house during Thanksgiving but the day after we headed to the SF bay area to visit our family there. As usual, the issue was finding a place to stay with the trailer. Our go-to location is transitioning and only have 2 spots now that would fit our trailer. We opted to stay in Pacifica at the SF RV Resort. The last time we were here, RV’s could back up to the cliff and hear the waves crashing. Things have now changed. There has been such erosion that area has been closed off due to safety concerns. We were only there for 3 nights.

We headed south from there to Paso Robles. This is another location that we have stayed at many times and there used to be only one major RV park there, Wine Country RV. This time we tried a different one, Vines RV Resort. It is a very nice park and, as a bonus, a Passport America participant. We were able to visit some of our usual locations in that area while we were there. Here is a sunset from there:

After 4 nights there we headed to our next stop, a favorite, Catalina Spa and RV, in Desert Hot Springs. This leg was over 300 miles, which we try to avoid, so we decided to break it up. We did an overnight stop outside of Bakersfield at the Orange Grove RV Park. It was a nice place for an overnight but a bit pricey and, alas, the oranges were not ready to pick!

We stayed at Catalina for 8 nights and took advantage of Passport America with them also. We always have a good time in the Palm Springs area and we were biding our time for an upcoming event. The mountains got some snow on them while we were there:

Our next stop was Van Nuys. We were heading to the Hollywood RV park, we knew it as Balboa RV park. We have stayed here also and like its’ proximity to many things to do.

We primarily came here because we had tickets to a filming of Jeopardy. I love Jeopardy and have always wanted to see it taped so I decided to get tickets. Roxie thinks I should go on it sometime but I KNOW that would be the episode where the questions were about Opera or English monarchs!

Unfortunately we got a phone call that the Jeopardy taping had been cancelled but they offered us seating at a Wheel of Fortune taping. We accepted. They put us on the production guest list for a different date. It was OK with us even though I would have rather seen Jeopardy.

Prior to the day of the taping, we met up with our friends the Chens. We met them at the Sriracha factory in Irwindale CA for the factory tour. They have wanted to go to this tour for a while and we are always willing to on one. The story of the founder of Sriracha is really great, you should read it here. Here are some shots from the tour:

We then drove to their house but stopped off at the California Yuan Yung Buddhism Center. It was nice and serene with good views from the hills:

One night while we were down there, we went to eat at Lawry’s Prime Rib. I remember going there once as a child and seeing them carve the prime rib from a hunk of beef in a cart. They do this right at your table. Not much has changed. The food was very good, the ambiance was great and the service was fantastic!

The next day was the Wheel of Fortune taping. We first went into the wrong gate at Sony studios but since we were early it didn’t matter too much. When we went in the right gate, we couldn’t fit the truck in the parking structure and had to park on the street (meters). The assistants started lining people up and we were taken first (remember we are on the production guest list) and this was a good thing! I forgot that my pocket knife was in my pocket. This is a no-no. I had to walk/run back to the truck, then back.

I made it back with plenty of time. They brought all of us into the studio and seated us. They gave us instructions on when to clap, when to be quiet, when we can go the bathroom, etc. They taped 3 episodes that day. There was a LOT of clapping that you were supposed to do and follow the assistants. I figured out that we were cheap labor for the show. There is a possibility that we will be seen on one of the shows. Our shows are being shown on Feb 7, Feb 8 and Mar 13.

After our 7 nights in SoCal, and 24 nights total, it was time to get back to Visalia for Christmas time.

Back and Forth & Back and Forth

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In my previous post, I talked about projects that I had done recently to the trailer.  Recently in this context meant between the middle of August and the middle of November.  These were done during gaps in a major event in our family.  A bit of warning, this is a fairly lengthy blog post.

Since our grandson was born on August 31, we have tried to be there for all 2 of his birthday celebrations and we were planning on being there for his 2nd.  We had reservations to stay at an RV park over in SF.  Then we got a phone call from one of my mother’s cousins.  She stated that she had visited my mother and she did not seem to be doing that well.  We knew that she was having some issues that were getting more serious as she approached her 89th birthday.  We had been in contact via phone and text messaging on and off but she always said she was doing OK just a bit weak.  We were in contact with an MD at her rehab hospital that ended up transferring her to a regular hospital due to an infection.  There was also a plan to head to AZ after Atlas’ birthday to see her.

After I debating internally a bit I thought we should go to AZ to see how Mom was actually doing.  Roxie didn’t think there was any question to that, yes we should go!  Atlas, coming up on 2, would not comprehend the significance of that date until he was older.  Hannah (Atlas’ mom) definitely understood also!  So we were leaving for Arizona on Aug 27th!  It is a very long haul (11+ hours) to do the drive in one day so we thought we would find a cheap overnight somewhere but it was over 100° during the day and not much better at 2 am all along the route, except for 1 place.  Morongo Casino between San Bernardino and Palm Springs.  It is right in a location where cooler winds blow east into the Coachella Valley.  It was down below 70 degrees there overnight, and it was just about 1/2 way to AZ:

 

We got to Mom’s home in the afternoon and immediately went to the hospital where she was transferred.  She did not look as good as she had made us (Roxie, me, my sister and brother-in-law) believe.  She was not doing good.  She was, however, able to communicate in a minimal way and I know she knew we were there.  This started a few days of us back and forth to the hospital and her house.  I started finding any important documents as I knew that we would most likely need these in the immediate and distant future.  We tried anything medical that we, and the professionals, felt would help her recovery to get her out of the hospital.  After about 3 days we were preparing to go visit in the AM and got a call from the hospital that we should get there ASAP.  We got to the floor and I saw that door closed with a note on it.  I knew.

My mother was dead.  That is a very surreal thing to write. 

I knew it would come at one time.  We all thought she might match her mother (94) or father (97) but none of know.  She seemed at peace lying in her bed.  This started many things in motion as only a death can.  We had many people to notify and things to do.  Mother had a burial plan prepaid but her final resting place was in Redding (Northern California), with my father, and she was in Arizona.  It also happened on our grandson’s birthday, August 31.

The funeral homes were wonderful to work with and they were affiliated which made the paperwork much easier.  We had to transport her body from AZ to CA for the burial.  We had alway joked with mom that we would just throw her in the back of our truck and get her to Redding that way.  It turns out that you legally can do that!  We almost did it this time but it would have taken 3 days to drive it and it was very hot still.  We didn’t want any issues so we opted to have her transported via aircraft there and let the homes coordinate it.

We scheduled two services for her.  One was for her internment in Redding and the other was a memorial in AZ for friends of hers there.  Redding was scheduled for Sept 14.  This gave us about a week in AZ to handle legal issues and do some rudimentary house searching/cleaning.  After that, we did the haul back to Visalia (stopping at Morongo again), stop in Visalia for 2 nights then up to Redding.  Redding in one day is more doable but we were able to spend the night at a friend’s and it was much appreciated, you know who you are.

We spent a week in Redding for the service and to visit Roxie’s sister who now lives there.  We were able to see some of the amazing devastation of the Carr fire (so terrible).  We also stayed at the campground that my parents used to own, it was a KOA at that time.  

We were able to see our families at the service also

L to R: Atlas (Grandson), Lukas (Daughter’s Fiance), Hannah (Daughter), Aaron (Son), Paige (Granddaughter), Roger, Roxie, Desiree (Sister in law), Tiarah (Niece in law)

That part done, we heading back to Visalia for a while until going ‘back’ to AZ to have mom’s memorial and work with my sister to take care of all of mom’s belongings.

AZ via Morongo, a trip we were getting very used to.  About 70 miles west of Phoenix on I10, I noticed something coming down the road.  It got progressively worse until the haboob completely covered the road.  We got off the road, turned off our lights, no foot on the brakes and just waited.

We had about a week there before my sister got there and we attacked the house and its contents.  The weekend of her service, we were joined by my sister’s kids and grandkids to help out.  They were also able to be there for mom’s service.  We got to meet many of mom’s churchgoers and friends.  We also had a cousin reunion of sorts.

Jenny, Greg, Roger, Beth, Cindy

My sister and brother in law were helpful beyond measure in cleaning out the house and handling the disposition of items.  We donated, sold and disposed of a lot of items!  The yard sale was 4 days.  We made at least 6 separate donation runs.  Filled up a dumpster about 4 times.  But we got the house completely emptied and placed it up for sale.

One of my ‘chores’ was to go through the immense number of photos and slides.  My mother saved a lot of old photos which was great!  She also had many recent photos.  All of these were combined in about 15 boxes with no order and no protection from elements.  There were probably 5-10 thousand photos like that to look through.  On top of all this, my father took many slide pictures.  He had about 120 carousels of slides, each of holds 80 slides.  He also had about 500 slides that were loose.  I gleaned through those.  In all the pictures, I was looking for ones with family in them.  I found many.

We ended up spending almost 4 weeks at mom’s house (in the driveway) the second time there.  We finally could go to Visalia (is that the ‘forth’ part in back and forth?) and let all of this hit us.  

It is hard to comprehend that my mom is gone.  She used to always text to find out where we were in our travels.  In the more recent times she didn’t always remember where we were so I would tell her again.  In going through her things we found out even more about her, some of it we should not go into here!

One interesting thing I found out is that my mother lies to authorities!  Look at these three photos:

The first photo shows a traffic violation that she received via a speed trap camera for speeding.  The second photo shows who was driving her car.  Obviously that is not my mother but it IS her boyfriend at the time!  The third photo shows her response.  She was not ‘aware of who was driving’ her car?  She blatantly lied to the authorities.

While we were all there cleaning out the house we would remember stories and incidents from her.  Even though she has passed, that is the best way to keep her memory alive.