…and I will go to Texas

The first part of the above quote is: “You may all go to Hell”, it is attributed to Davy Crockett after he lost a bid to become a congressman from Tennessee. As we are getting back on the road, we are heading to Texas to take care of some medical procedures, since that is our home state. Ironically, as we are also leaving California, I do feel some kinship to Davy and his feelings.

Hold on though, we weren’t leaving California immediately. We headed down to Hemet CA for a few nights. I was hoping to meet with my cousin in the area but schedules did not line up. However, we did meet some very nice neighbors at the Golden Village Palms RV resort. They were fellow Airstreamers and we met them in passing years back at an Alumafandango but we were able to reconnect this time around.

While we were in Hemet we got a phone call from our realtor in AZ that is selling our late mother’s house. She stated there was a water leak in the yard and it appeared to be the water main from the street! We were planning on swinging by the house on our way but this meant we were going to be there a bit longer. Good thing we are retired and had over 2 weeks to get to TX!

We stopped off in Quartzsite for a rainy night.

We took up our normal location in the driveway and coordinated a plumber to repair the water main. We were able to get it done in a very timely manner. We also were able to get a yard service setup. We got moving again after 5 nights.

Our normal parking spot.
Local grocery store ready for customers of a certain age frame.

Last year we stayed for a while at an Escapee’s Co-op park. These are locations where you can purchase an interest in the park which gives you a site to park your RV. You can also augment the site with non-residential buildings to make your life easier. The one we thought we would try is the one in Benson AZ. I was thinking of going to Tucson but this was just a bit south and with their ‘New Visitors’ special, it became very attractive. They also had a place for a week at under $100 (that includes our electrical usage).

The Benson Escapee’s park is very nice. The Co-op portion is very attractive and might be something we look at in the future. We took a few day drives around to Tombstone, Bisbee, etc. One evening we went to see some Airstream friends: Rich, Eleanor, and Emma. The park has a lot of activities to keep their members busy. I went to genealogy talk. They had some outside entertainment one evening and we also attended the weekly music jam:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBpzfkRF2Dw
‘Our’ spot at the Escapees Coop.
Lunar eclipse

Since we spent a well deserved week in AZ it was time to get moving to Texas. We had a bit of ground to cover. We first made to Las Cruces, then into West Texas. This was definitely NOT the beautiful part of the trip. We spent the night in Fort Stockton, TX at a Passport America spot that looks like it caters to the oil industry. It was cold and windy, we even had a few icicles from the water the next morning.

NOT the sign you want to see if you have an Airstream!
Our spot at Fort Stockton, TX
This was the locking system for the door in the restrooms!
However, the paper towels must be GOLD!

We were happy to leave Ft Stockton behind and work our way through West Texas. The next stop was the South Llano River State Park. This was a very nice location. We took a short walk down toward the river, saw numerous birds and where the flooding happened about 6 months ago.

We were able to try out our new fire pit!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obBvc9ElJbw
Armadillo sighting!

The next stop was Johnson Creek RV park near Kerrville, TX. This time we were there for 2 nights (Passport America) so we could unhook the truck for the first time in 3 nights!

We had made it to our time (Feb 1) to start our month long stay in Henly TX. On the way there, we ran over an oil drip pan on the road and suffered a minor injury to the trailer.

It looks like a simple repair, just have to get the plastic part from Airstream.

Now that we are here, near Austin we get to start our chores!

Back and Forth & Back and Forth

In my previous post, I talked about projects that I had done recently to the trailer.  Recently in this context meant between the middle of August and the middle of November.  These were done during gaps in a major event in our family.  A bit of warning, this is a fairly lengthy blog post.

Since our grandson was born on August 31, we have tried to be there for all 2 of his birthday celebrations and we were planning on being there for his 2nd.  We had reservations to stay at an RV park over in SF.  Then we got a phone call from one of my mother’s cousins.  She stated that she had visited my mother and she did not seem to be doing that well.  We knew that she was having some issues that were getting more serious as she approached her 89th birthday.  We had been in contact via phone and text messaging on and off but she always said she was doing OK just a bit weak.  We were in contact with an MD at her rehab hospital that ended up transferring her to a regular hospital due to an infection.  There was also a plan to head to AZ after Atlas’ birthday to see her.

After I debating internally a bit I thought we should go to AZ to see how Mom was actually doing.  Roxie didn’t think there was any question to that, yes we should go!  Atlas, coming up on 2, would not comprehend the significance of that date until he was older.  Hannah (Atlas’ mom) definitely understood also!  So we were leaving for Arizona on Aug 27th!  It is a very long haul (11+ hours) to do the drive in one day so we thought we would find a cheap overnight somewhere but it was over 100° during the day and not much better at 2 am all along the route, except for 1 place.  Morongo Casino between San Bernardino and Palm Springs.  It is right in a location where cooler winds blow east into the Coachella Valley.  It was down below 70 degrees there overnight, and it was just about 1/2 way to AZ:

 

We got to Mom’s home in the afternoon and immediately went to the hospital where she was transferred.  She did not look as good as she had made us (Roxie, me, my sister and brother-in-law) believe.  She was not doing good.  She was, however, able to communicate in a minimal way and I know she knew we were there.  This started a few days of us back and forth to the hospital and her house.  I started finding any important documents as I knew that we would most likely need these in the immediate and distant future.  We tried anything medical that we, and the professionals, felt would help her recovery to get her out of the hospital.  After about 3 days we were preparing to go visit in the AM and got a call from the hospital that we should get there ASAP.  We got to the floor and I saw that door closed with a note on it.  I knew.

My mother was dead.  That is a very surreal thing to write. 

I knew it would come at one time.  We all thought she might match her mother (94) or father (97) but none of know.  She seemed at peace lying in her bed.  This started many things in motion as only a death can.  We had many people to notify and things to do.  Mother had a burial plan prepaid but her final resting place was in Redding (Northern California), with my father, and she was in Arizona.  It also happened on our grandson’s birthday, August 31.

The funeral homes were wonderful to work with and they were affiliated which made the paperwork much easier.  We had to transport her body from AZ to CA for the burial.  We had alway joked with mom that we would just throw her in the back of our truck and get her to Redding that way.  It turns out that you legally can do that!  We almost did it this time but it would have taken 3 days to drive it and it was very hot still.  We didn’t want any issues so we opted to have her transported via aircraft there and let the homes coordinate it.

We scheduled two services for her.  One was for her internment in Redding and the other was a memorial in AZ for friends of hers there.  Redding was scheduled for Sept 14.  This gave us about a week in AZ to handle legal issues and do some rudimentary house searching/cleaning.  After that, we did the haul back to Visalia (stopping at Morongo again), stop in Visalia for 2 nights then up to Redding.  Redding in one day is more doable but we were able to spend the night at a friend’s and it was much appreciated, you know who you are.

We spent a week in Redding for the service and to visit Roxie’s sister who now lives there.  We were able to see some of the amazing devastation of the Carr fire (so terrible).  We also stayed at the campground that my parents used to own, it was a KOA at that time.  

We were able to see our families at the service also

L to R: Atlas (Grandson), Lukas (Daughter’s Fiance), Hannah (Daughter), Aaron (Son), Paige (Granddaughter), Roger, Roxie, Desiree (Sister in law), Tiarah (Niece in law)

That part done, we heading back to Visalia for a while until going ‘back’ to AZ to have mom’s memorial and work with my sister to take care of all of mom’s belongings.

AZ via Morongo, a trip we were getting very used to.  About 70 miles west of Phoenix on I10, I noticed something coming down the road.  It got progressively worse until the haboob completely covered the road.  We got off the road, turned off our lights, no foot on the brakes and just waited.

We had about a week there before my sister got there and we attacked the house and its contents.  The weekend of her service, we were joined by my sister’s kids and grandkids to help out.  They were also able to be there for mom’s service.  We got to meet many of mom’s churchgoers and friends.  We also had a cousin reunion of sorts.

Jenny, Greg, Roger, Beth, Cindy

My sister and brother in law were helpful beyond measure in cleaning out the house and handling the disposition of items.  We donated, sold and disposed of a lot of items!  The yard sale was 4 days.  We made at least 6 separate donation runs.  Filled up a dumpster about 4 times.  But we got the house completely emptied and placed it up for sale.

One of my ‘chores’ was to go through the immense number of photos and slides.  My mother saved a lot of old photos which was great!  She also had many recent photos.  All of these were combined in about 15 boxes with no order and no protection from elements.  There were probably 5-10 thousand photos like that to look through.  On top of all this, my father took many slide pictures.  He had about 120 carousels of slides, each of holds 80 slides.  He also had about 500 slides that were loose.  I gleaned through those.  In all the pictures, I was looking for ones with family in them.  I found many.

We ended up spending almost 4 weeks at mom’s house (in the driveway) the second time there.  We finally could go to Visalia (is that the ‘forth’ part in back and forth?) and let all of this hit us.  

It is hard to comprehend that my mom is gone.  She used to always text to find out where we were in our travels.  In the more recent times she didn’t always remember where we were so I would tell her again.  In going through her things we found out even more about her, some of it we should not go into here!

One interesting thing I found out is that my mother lies to authorities!  Look at these three photos:

The first photo shows a traffic violation that she received via a speed trap camera for speeding.  The second photo shows who was driving her car.  Obviously that is not my mother but it IS her boyfriend at the time!  The third photo shows her response.  She was not ‘aware of who was driving’ her car?  She blatantly lied to the authorities.

While we were all there cleaning out the house we would remember stories and incidents from her.  Even though she has passed, that is the best way to keep her memory alive.